dolor

Feb 042015

The wound and the tourniquet

When the soul hurts, when it hurts to live, we start our self-protection mechanisms that allow us to “survive the pain.” The therapeutic process is a fragile balance between looking back at the wound and hold the pain. Therefore, the deep healing process is not done in one day. So enter the wound requires tact. Skipping all barriers of protection can be impossible to sustain and we can fall under thrauma again. However, staying in the barrier serves as a patch, but does not help us to understand ourselves in depth and to love oneself completely, also with our pain. Our mechanisms of personality are what a tourniquet is in a wound: when the wound bleeds the tourniquet has to be tighten, it can save a life. But to heal the wound, the tourniquet has to loosen, the wound needs to be looked at, cleaned -though it hurts- and treatment to be applied for blood to circulate again, for life to flow.

Sep 282014

(Català) amor i píndoles

“Mammals love, the price of that love is the pain of loss. To qualify this as disease and to give pills reduces the dignity of love and replaces it with a superficial medical ritual” Allen Frances, a psychiatrist, director of DSM IV

Psychiatrization of our society responds to the infantilization of its citizens. In too many cases,  pills help people to avoid the responsibility of living, with love and pain, only to the economic benefits of a few. This is a high mortgage to our society.

Apr 062014

contemplate

c     o      n       t      e     m      p      l     a     t    e

inspiring the beauty… exhaling the pain … admiring the miracle of all and each existence.

(to Cristina, Maria, Susanna, Manuel and the others … with gratitude)

Mar 172014

traversed

I am afraid of my fear, my anger, my pain. I learned to ignore them, chainedthem  in the darkest of darks, and after layers and layers and layers, I put a colored paper, and some ribbon. And now, when sometimes a chain breaks (it happens), if the paper tarnishes or the ribbon falls, my whole being vibrates with fear, anger or pain … and I allow, in serene surrender, these emotions that belong to me (yes, these too) penetrate my being, that being that yearns to be complete.