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The wound and the tourniquet
Feb 042015

The wound and the tourniquet

When the soul hurts, when it hurts to live, we start our self-protection mechanisms that allow us to “survive the pain.” The therapeutic process is a fragile balance between looking back at the wound and hold the pain. Therefore, the deep healing process is not done in one day. So enter the wound requires tact. Skipping all barriers of protection can be impossible to sustain and we can fall under thrauma again. However, staying in the barrier serves as a patch, but does not help us to understand ourselves in depth and to love oneself completely, also with our pain. Our mechanisms of personality are what a tourniquet is in a wound: when the wound bleeds the tourniquet has to be tighten, it can save a life. But to heal the wound, the tourniquet has to loosen, the wound needs to be looked at, cleaned -though it hurts- and treatment to be applied for blood to circulate again, for life to flow.

2015
Jan 092015

2015

We begin a new year. One moment, like any other, to take stock. Since this minimum space within the boundless cyberspace, since this therapeutic space for growing, I wish-and I wish you, who read these lines, we meet this year, one way or another. And that that meeting is, for you and for me as well -and for others- an experience that makes us feel more alive and complet, proud to be who we are: every day a little more ourselves.

loves and hates at the Christmas table
Nov 212014

loves and hates at the Christmas table

Surely,  Christmas is the time of year that we live more intensely family relationships. Christmas time moves in us many emotions: joy, good cheer, generosity … but also anxiety, stress and sadness. At this time we experience contradictions (sometimes few and sometimes many) in regarding our family and the family of our partner. It is expected of us Christmas joy and generosity, we are told of happy familes gathered around the table, peace and love. But in every family there has been all kinds of experiencesso that this social ideal often does not correspond with our experience and the reality of our family.

If we want this Christmas to be genuine we can give ourselves the opportunity to feel good in our skin and in our real family being faithful to our history, respectfull of our feelings-whether they might be- and giving space to what it is, with no makeup. Only from the internal connection to what it was and what it is, we can experience serenity and feel that life and love can flow , thus enjoying today, tomorrow. (activity in Cardedeu on December 13th)

if I knew
Nov 062014

if I knew

If I knew where sadness or anxiety comes, if I knew … I do not know, and I’m tempted to deny it. And yet it is there, sometimes. Perhaps this is an echo of an ancient past that memory erases or hides, it is perhaps a whisper of the present, so vast, so multifaceted, so interconnected … perhaps an intuition of the future which not yet here, it is moving. I will pursue a reason, with the powerful mind and be useless. For within no time, the boundary between real and imagined vanishes, Then, humbly, just resting, waiting, looking out the window the automn, and watching without seeing the invisible, just to feel and let be what is, the way it is.

(Català) amor i píndoles
Sep 282014

(Català) amor i píndoles

“Mammals love, the price of that love is the pain of loss. To qualify this as disease and to give pills reduces the dignity of love and replaces it with a superficial medical ritual” Allen Frances, a psychiatrist, director of DSM IV

Psychiatrization of our society responds to the infantilization of its citizens. In too many cases,  pills help people to avoid the responsibility of living, with love and pain, only to the economic benefits of a few. This is a high mortgage to our society.

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